Why Changes are Important

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Why Changes are Important

 

Changes are part of my life. When I travel I see new cultures and experience new surroundings; if I get a new job, I might have to learn new skills or adapt to the new rules; if I move to a new city, I’ll make new friends and get to know its neighbourhoods. I’m used to it right now, but I’m always learning.

Most importantly, changes bring a new perspective; they give you the chance to see things from another point of view and with that advantage, assess situations with more clarity. Embracing changes — as opposed to avoiding them — is an invaluable skill.

New School

 

I had an awesome high school, plenty of friends and good education. However, my school — mine and my brother’s — was not the cheapest one, it was actually rather expensive. Although we’d never experienced any sort of discrimination, we definitely felt we were on the poorer side of the scale.

It only really bothered us when we had to change to new schools because my parents couldn’t afford it anymore — they were left having to pay off the debt for six months afterwards. Greg went to a cheaper school in the city center and I went to a state-funded one in the north zone of Rio.

This was the first major change in our lives and it really opened our eyes. It’s not that we were unaware of the different realities; however, knowing about it and living through it are not the same ballpark. The shift in the mindset was strong, but man, was it necessary.

The people we met made us rethink all we knew about wealth, some were so poor or had such a hard life that our “problems” compared to theirs were minimal — in fact, we probably didn’t have anything worth complaining about and were better off being grateful for what we had.

New Country

London Eye

London

The second major change in our lives happened when we moved to the UK. If I were to try to illustrate all the differences between Brazil and England, it’d take me forever! The most important lesson is: what you take for granted in your country might be completely different in another one — or even inexistent.

I’d say the most prominent differences would be the almost lack of violence and the distribution of wealth. Basically, people here don’t live in fear of being robbed or killed and everyone has a chance in life if they choose to pursue their dreams. Unfortunately, Brazil has a lot to catch up on. I’m not saying one country is bad and the other is good; I might not see violence here, but when it’s cold, it’s bloody cold!

It is important to note that the concerns of the people here are very different from the Brazilian people — they have to deal with different problems.. When you see these differences, when you see each country’s achievements and failures, you have a broader view. After living here I have the utmost hope Brazil will overcome its difficulties; it can become great if it chooses to.

When I see people complaining, saying “Things will never change!” I know it’s not true; it can be different and it will! It might not happen immediately and it might not be easy — nothing is — but it is possible, and the last thing you can do is give up.

India

 

And then we went to India!

Goa - Agonda

Goa – Agonda

I must say that, coming from Brazil, it was not an immense shock as I think it must be for people from first world economies; still, it was a shock nonetheless! I saw things there that I have not seen in my own country.

At that point I realised how lucky Brazilians are; how much we have. I have not visited the whole of Brazil and I know some states might share the same kind of misery I saw in India, but seeing it first hand makes you think.

Every time you experience a big change, you see things in another way;  depending on the point of view, something could be great or terrible. However, the same applies for the day to day life, the small changes are equally important.

Small Changes

 

When you change jobs — in the same industry or to a different one — you have to deal with new people. You might have had a difficult boss and now you have one who cares for the team and encourages you; or, your old co-workers were great and now you are inside a gossip-riddled environment. It doesn’t matter, the important point is it will be different and it’s a good thing; you’ll learn lessons.

Most of the time we won’t know something until we try it and we always think it’s a lot harder than it really is.The best question to ask yourself is “What’s the worst that could happen?” I’m pretty sure you won’t get even close to your worst case scenario and you will have learnt something along the way, even if you don’t succeed.

So, I urge you to change, to accept change and seek change. The longer you avoid it, the worse it gets. If you find yourself complaining all the time about things like “that toxic relationship,” “the boring job” or “I want a different life!” It may be time for a revolution, but you’re the only one with the power to start it!

 

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2 comments

  • Your blog is a real inspiration.
    I live in Paris, France and I am into the slow lifestyle. But it’s hard to find the right balance between an active/ambitious life and a slow one.

    I don’t believe in choosing only one option. Life must be exciting, full of challenges .. so living in the countryside among nature and birds does not seem enough for me.
    On the other hand, living stressed, overwhelmed, and not enjoying the moment/your family/yourself is not ideal as well.

    I have a french blog where I talk sometimes about this subjet. If you speak the langage I would be very happy if you go take a look.

    xxx

    • Hello Louna, thanks for your comment! =] !

      I couldn’t agree with you more and I suppose this is the message in this post! People have to be willing to change. If they try something and they’re not happy, just change!

      At the moment I think the best of both worlds would be to live in a town that’s close to a big city or capital. So you can enjoy the quietness and the countryside, but if you crave urban experiences, you won’t be more than one hour away. Or maybe just live a nomadic life! =] !

      Google Translate helped me with your website! I really enjoyed it!

      Cheers

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